Divorce will always be a difficult issue to explain Biblically and to experience personally, because divorce has never been God’s divine design. There is nothing in the divine design of marriage that allows for a systematic strategic process for carefully organizing divorce to not be destructive. The potential for damage, in the case of divorce, is tremendous because it is the very foundation upon which everything is built. Therefore, marriage must be entered into soberly. The benefits of marriage to the individuals involved are not fully realized until the purposes of God are established.
A person by the name of Edward Gibson explained the decline of Rome in the following manner: (1) The rapid increase of divorce; the undermining of dignity and sanctity of the home, which is the basis of human society. (2) Higher and higher taxes and the spending of public money for free bread and circuses for the populace. (3) The mad craze for pleasure; sports becoming more exciting and more brutal every year. (4) The building of gigantic apartments when the real enemy was within the decadence of the people. (5) The decay of religion—faith fading into mere form—losing touch with life and becoming impotent to guide the people. Do these five reasons for the fall of Rome tell us anything about our present national situation? A nation fell because the foundation of all society was destroyed. Could you imagine what divorce can do to a church?
Marriage was not made with divorce as a part of it, like a car having a spare tire or like having two kidneys if one fails. Marriage is attached to vows that are made to God (Deut. 23:21-23); it is attached to sexual intimacy that causes two people to become one flesh (1 Corinthians 6:16). It takes two people to make a child or children so that a family can be developed. It takes two people to effectively raise a child or children. When something is designed to be stuck together like glue it cannot be divided without damage being made to individuals, children, a nation, and the church.“Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. Make sure that your character is free from the love of money, being content with what you have; for He Himself has said, “I WILL NEVER DESERT YOU, NOR WILL I EVER FORSAKE YOU,” so that we confidently say, “THE LORD IS MY HELPER, I WILL NOT BE AFRAID.” (Hebrews 13:4-6; NASU)